happylittlegems parenting fact of the day:
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs you will ever do
From the moment your child is born you will feel guilt. Whether it be guilt because you're not breastfeeding, guilt because you've left your baby to scream while you take a long overdue shower or make yourself some food, guilt for leaving them for a few hours or overnight to have some 'me' time, guilt because you've gone back to work while they're still young and you've had to put them in nursery, guilt because you're at home and feel like you should be out working to provide more household income, guilt because you were late picking them up, guilt because you missed sports day.... the list is endless. Give yourself a break! Parenting is hard. You are doing the best you can.
The pressures on us nowadays as parents are huge. It always looks like everyone else is doing a brilliant job. Social media does not help with this. Yes, there's always things we need to work on as parents, but beating yourself up about things is not going to help you or your child. And believe me everyone else is feeling the struggle, even if they're pretending they're not. The struggle is real.
happylittlegems top tips for 'being the best parent you can be':
'Breast is best' - yes, research tells us breastfeeding is the best option for our newborn babies, however, sometimes we have reasons why it's not working that well or it's too much of a struggle and we need to cut ourselves a break and re-evaluate whether it's really the best thing in our personal circumstance. Other people will judge you, but you've got to do what's right for you and your baby.
Make routine your friend. Children need routines, it helps them feel safe in their surroundings, so bring routine in, but remember also that sometimes life happens and try not to be so rigid that you don't give yourself and your child other experiences.
Have some 'me' time each week. Get someone else to have your child for a few hours so that you can go for a coffee with a friend, wander around the shops, go to the gym, go out for lunch or dinner or just take a nap! This may seem selfish, but you will be a better parent because of it.
Your child is not the worst behaved child in the world! Sometimes it may feel like everybody else's children are so well-behaved, so polite, so happy and your child is the one who always has a tantrum, always hits other children and has a meltdown about everything. This is not true. Children all go through more challenging phases, there are lots of times you will question your parenting ability, maybe you do need to assess what the problem is and make some adjustments to something in order to help or maybe you need to reach out for help.
You will not be able to be at every assembly, every production, every sports day. Explain to your child why you may not be able to make it to their event and tell them you will try and make it to the next thing. Maybe ask a Grandparent or other family member to go in your place.
Be the best you can be. Strive to be the best parent you can be. Be reflective. If things aren't working ask yourself why. Don't be afraid to make changes.
Look after yourself.
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." Reinhold Neibuhr
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